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by REBECCA
GRACE | AFA Journal Staff Writer
"Hello. Im Miss America," young Tara said to her
seventh-grade classmates as she presented an oral book report. She
wore a foil-embossed cardboard crown and held a silk rose.
While her classmates took on the personalities of presidents, astronauts
and other noble characters, this young girl chose to read and present
an autobiography about Cheryl Prewitt, Miss America 1980.
"Of course, I knew I wasnt Miss America, but through
reading that book, it really inspired me that God can use even pageant
girls. He can use somebody besides a pastor or a missionary,"
she added.
And so began her journey into the pageant system. However, the aspiring
beauty queen did not start competing until the age of 17.
Sixteen pageants later, including four tries at the state level
over a span of seven years, the young seventh-graders dream
came true as she was crowned Miss America 1997 two weeks prior to
her 24th birthday.
The power of the crown
Today, Tara Dawn Holland Christensen uses her glory days of pageantry
as the backdrop for a spiritually-based message she shares nationwide.
"When I was younger and first getting involved in pageants,
quite honestly, my motivation was not completely spiritual,"
Christensen admitted.
"But as I went through the system, and as I began to understand
the impact and the power of the crown, then the true attraction
for me became the voice that goes with the title," she explained.
"I knew that I would have the opportunity to be Miss America
for that one year, but I would always be a former Miss America who
would at least have some sphere of influence and be able to use
that title for Christ and hopefully be able to make an impact,"
Christensen said.
And that is just what Christensen is doing today by speaking to
numerous audiences about the importance of abstinence outside marriage.
Her nationwide public speaking endeavors began as Miss America when
she traveled about 20,000 miles a month making appearances and speaking
about literacy. During her travels she realized societys growing
interest in abstinence.
The
commitment of a beauty queen
At a very young age, Christensen made a commitment to remain sexually
pure until marriage. Her commitment stemmed from asking Christ to
become Lord and Savior of her life when she was five years old.
"I didnt know how to engage in a theological debate,
but I knew that I needed Jesus to cleanse me of my sins and to make
me pure and clean again," Christensen said.
As a natural overflow of her renewed heart, Christensen desired
to live a life that was pleasing to God and that included saving
herself for her future husband.
"God says to be pure and to be abstinent until marriage, and
I didnt want to let Him down," she explained. "
It
was also important for me not to let down my parents."
While Christensen was young, her parents took the initiative to
teach her the Biblical standards of sexual purity and did not rely
on the youth group or school classroom to do so.
"
God was my reason for abstaining, but my parents were
my motivation," Christensen added.
As soon-to-be first-time parents, Christensen and her husband, Jon,
have already decided they will begin teaching their child about
the importance of sexual purity from a very young age and encourage
other parents to do the same.
She believes that the standard is set too low when it comes to premarital
sex, and many adults smooth over the problem with the excuse, "They
are going to do it anyway."
Therefore, Christensen is working to raise the standard to one of
purity.
Christensens advocacy efforts took full force after she was
interviewed by Dr. James Dobson of Focus on the Family.
The interview was the result of a scathing newspaper article about
Christensens commitment to abstinence and how her fiancé
greatly valued her decision. At the time, she and her husband Jon
were engaged. He was a former U. S. Congressman running for governor
of Nebraska. After the couple verbalized their beliefs to the press,
a media frenzy erupted.
"From the day that that [Dobson interview] aired, Ive
been doing abstinence events ever since," the former Miss America
explained.
"So it was something the Enemy meant for evil but God turned
around to use for good."
The
plot of the Enemy
While the Enemy now uses the hidden agenda of sex education to fight
for a foothold in the lives of todays teens, Gods goodness
is evident in the effectiveness of abstinence programs.
Real abstinence education recognizes that lasting sexual happiness
is found within marriage. In contrast, comprehensive sex education
programs focus almost completely on contraception and include sexually
explicit material, graphic language, homosexual role-playing, erotic
movies and hands-on activities.
According to a recent study by The Heritage Foundation (www.heritage.org),
"Ninety-one percent of parents want teens to be taught that
the best choice is for sexual intercourse to be linked to
love, intimacy, and commitment. These qualities are most likely
to occur in a faithful marriage. "
Unfortunately, these parental pleas remain muffled as evident from
the govern-ments allocation of funding.
The Heritage Foundation reports that "in 2002 alone, the government
spent $12 promoting contraception and condom use for every $1 it
spent to encourage teens to abstain from sexual activity."
More recently, the pleas of concerned parents and abstinence advocates
caught the attention of President Bush who has embraced the issue
as a major initiative. According to CNN.com, the President proposed
that $272 million be budgeted for abstinence-until-marriage programs
in 2005. Unfortunately the request was not met in its entirety;
however, abstinence programs will receive an increase in funding
to $170 million (up from $138 million in 2004) for the current government-spending
year (www.abstinence.net).
This slight increase in funding is justified by a substantial increase
in positive effects of abstinence education.
The
goodness of God
For example, sexual activity was lowered 17% among girls who participated
in the national Best Friends Foundation, a program that teaches
abstinence as a part of physical and emotional well-being.
"Be the One" is another abstinence-based program that
results in significant attitudinal changes as referred to by its
founder Lloyd Groves.
"In 1991, 46% of high school students surveyed said they were
still virgins," Lloyd said, as reported by Abstinence Clearinghouse
in the Boca Raton News. "In 2001, 54% said they were virgins.
The only thing that has changed on the landscape is abstinence education."
In addition, a study published by the Journal of Adolescent Health
revealed, "Overall, 53% of the decline in pregnancy rates
can be attributed to decreased sexual experience
and 47% to
improved contraceptive use."
As evident from the statistics, abstinence education is effective,
and Christensen is intent on being a vital part of the movement.
The former Miss Americas message encompasses a variety of
points that vary depending on the setting but include highlights
such as: purity is a calling from God; individual worth is a reason
for waiting; and goals and dreams can be achieved. But her favorite
aspect to share is that God was her strength when it came to remaining
sexually pure until marriage.
The
voice of virginity
"My prayer is that those who hear me would be some how reminded
of the fact that we can live up to purity, and we can have that
kind of a lifestyle," Christensen said.
"As much as I believed in abstinence and purity before I was
married, it was after I was married and experienced that intimacy
with my husband that I just wept for all the people who [willingly]
give that gift away to someone prior to their spouse," she
explained.
Having personally experienced the impact of sexual purity both before
and after marriage, Christensen aims to encourage young people that
it is possible to wait.
"I was a 26-year-old virgin when we got married," she
said.
Although Christensens romance with her husband unfolded like
a fairy tale that involved meeting on Valentines Day, being
proposed to on the South Portico of the White House, and having
an intimate Southern wedding, it didnt outweigh her commitment
to purity.
In fact, during their engagement, Christensen and her husband made
a written commitment to one another and to God of what they physically
would and would not do prior to their marriage. It was very helpful,
especially in the wake of heightened emotions leading up to the
wedding.
"Then just from a practical standpoint, my thought was, Ive
waited 26 years. Im not going to blow it now, "
Christensen rationalized.
But more than that, it was Christensens desire to please God
that sustained her, and it was her virtue that made her a crown
unto her husband (Proverbs 12:4).
BEWARE OF THESE
SEX ED PROGRAMS/ALLIANCES
Abstinence Plus
a sex education program in which only 4.7% of the curricula is
devoted to abstinence.
Be Proud! Be Responsible!
invites students to brainstorm spontaneous and erotic ways
to use contraception.
Focus on Kids
teaches alternatives to sexual intercourse such as fantasizing,
watching erotic movies, sensuous feeding, etc.
Planned Parenthood Federation
of America opposes any efforts to teach character-based
abstinence.
Advocates for Youth
Supports abortion on demand and government-funded contraceptive
clinics.
The National Campaign to
Prevent Teen Pregnancy presents a value-free
message in which abstinence and condom use are seen as equal.
Sources:
www.heritage.org; Take Twelve, a publication of Focus on the Family,
www.family.org
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