Rusty Benson | AFA Journal Associate Editor
Editors note: The following story is based on actual events.
Names and details have been altered to protect identities.
For the Martin family, the beginning of the end started while Josh
was recuperating from knee surgery. At home alone for three weeks
while his wife, Ellen, was at work and the children were at school,
Josh spent hours on the Internet.
His online routine repeated several times a day included
checking his E-mail, searching Ebaymotors for a wiring harness and
other hard-to-find parts for his 84 Volvo, tracking the progress
of his 401K and monitoring five news sites. Following countless
links from these sites meant he was regularly logging over eight
hours online daily. So Josh had no idea when, where or how the porn
spammers captured his E-mail address.
By the second week at home, Joshs inbox volume had increased
to over 100 messages a day, many from porn sites. Some even included
small teaser photos of young women engaged in unspeakable acts.
Others were simple text messages with sexually provocative subject
lines such as I want to know what you are thinking.
Josh knew better. And what would the guys at church say? But he
was sure no one would find out, especially if he deleted his browser
history and trashed the E-mail.
How the whole thing went from checking out a couple of porn sites
to instant messaging Michelle is a blur. After just a few sessions,
their conversations went from small talk to sex talk. Joshs
secret fantasy world was overtaking his real world.
Even when he returned to work, he would spend most of the day checking
his E-mail and messaging his new soulmate. His boss noticed Joshs
lack of productivity, but blamed it on a slow recovery from surgery.
Josh was the one who first suggested a face-to-face rendezvous.
Michelle was quick to agree. A bogus business trip to Phoenix provided
the perfect opportunity.
Josh had told Ellen his return flight was due at 10 a.m., Monday,
and that he would be back in the office by noon. So, she was confused
by the phone message from Joshs boss asking if he was sick.
It was nearly 11 p.m. Monday before Josh called. Ellen had imagined
the worst, or so she thought. Tears of relief suddenly turned to
numb shock as Josh announced in a voice remarkably devoid of emotion
that he would not be coming home ever.
The addictive power of Internet pornography has been compared to
crack cocaine, and even Christians are succumbing to the compulsion
in huge numbers. Internet porn is the number one plague in
the church, says Doug Weiss, director of Heart to Heart Counseling
of Colorado Springs, Colorado. Five years ago I couldnt
get into a church to talk about this issue, he said. Now
I cant get out. Pastors are overwhelmed.
While Weiss and others are helping men and growing numbers
of women to break the chains of Internet porn addiction,
a unique company associated with AFA is working to keep Internet
porn out of homes in the first place, while maximizing access to
good online content.
Bsafe Online has developed the most powerful and accurate Internet
filter available. The list of endorsements for Bsafes technology
branded under the name of
afafilter.com include Promise Keepers, Campus Crusade
for Christ, Crown Financial Ministries, Gospelcom.net, For Faith
and Family, John Bramlett Ministries, Heart to Heart Counseling,
Kanakuk Kamps and Dave Ramsey.
The endorsement from Ramsey was a particularly rewarding sanction
to acquire. The nationally known radio talk show host had been so
badly burned by advertising filtering products, that he had sworn
off ever endorsing another Internet filtering product.
It took several months to convince Ramsey and his staff to
even test the filter, said Glen Fradenburg, Bsafe chairman.
Now Ramsey is one of our most enthusiastic supporters. He
reports not a single complaint since Bsafe began advertising on
Bsafes state of the art Internet filter was developed by software
programmers who had previously worked in missile defense technology.
While it is still the companys stock- in-trade, Bsafe is driven
by more simple ideas. Its no longer a question of having
good children or bad children; or having the self-control not to
visit porn sites, Fradenburg says. The sheer volume
of horrendous material on the Internet means that if your computer
is unfiltered, your family is going to be exposed.
Unlike most Internet service providers who offer weak parental
controls mostly as a marketing strategy, Bsafe is committed
to using our technology to making the home a safe place for families
and children. Its the reason we exist.